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What does having a success mindset mean?

 Hi

Having a success mindset, means that you have an absolute certainty (you have no doubt) and you expect to be successful in every facet of your life: personal, career, marriage, family, finances, material possessions and friendships. In other words, in your heart and mind, you are absolutely certain that you can and will succeed in every one of these areas.

It also means that you think big (Much happiness, great wealth, big achievements).

You don’t have a dustbin-mentality (a belief that your life is always tough and you can never achieve anything), but a success mentality.

You live with your mind constantly tuned to a success frequency. You only think that you will succeed at everything that you attempt. When someone suggests that you may fail you wonder where they come from, because for you everything is possible.

Start believing that you will succeed.

Affirmations:
I have an absolute certainty that I will be successful
I always think big
I succeed at everything I attempt

With Fond Regards

Arnfried Klein-Werner
Motivator & CEO – Be Motivated Today

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Regards. Shaun Douglas shaun.douglas@mysmartmindset.com

June 25, 2010 Posted by | Be Motivated Today | Leave a comment

This will help you reach your goals.

 Hi

When it comes to achieving a goals, getting started can sometimes be the hardest part. Here’s something you can do to help you get started.

Set a date to start working. Many people fail because they never start. They consider the task too huge and daunting that they quit even before taking the first action step. Don’t let this happen to you. Your greatest goals can be achieved.

No matter how daunting your goals may be, you can accomplish them. But you have to start.

To help you get started there are 3 things to do:
1. It starts with making a decision to start – funny as that sounds. Once you have decided to start, starting becomes a lot easier. So make that decision right now. Decide to start working towards your goals.
Have you decided?
GOOD!
2. Set a date to start. Decide when you will start planning (or working if you already have made plans). Set a date within the next 30 days, maybe within the next 2 weeks if it is really an important goal.
When will you start?
3. Remind yourself continually that you have decided to start and when. The mind is powerful and by the time your start-date arrives, you will be ready to get to work with enthusiasm.

Once the ball is rolling, so-to-speak, it will pick up momentum by itself. The mere fact that you are then taking action will inspire you to continue. It is like an invisible power takes hold of you and says: “Come let’s do a bit more”. Listen to that voice inside yourself.

“A journey of 1000 miles starts with the first step.” – Chinese Proverb

Affirmations:
I have set a date to start on my goals
My mind is being prepared for action
I will achieve my goals

With Fond Regards

Arnfried Klein-Werner
Motivator & CEO – Be Motivated Today

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Regards. Shaun Douglas shaun.douglas@mysmartmindset.com

June 24, 2010 Posted by | Be Motivated Today | Leave a comment

I just did this.

“People of mediocre ability sometimes achieve outstanding success because they don’t know when to quit. Most people succeed because they are determined to.” – George Allen

I’m so ordinary, that if you meet me you will actually be disappointed. But I have succeeded because of determination (and a belief that I can). You can too.

Affirmations:
I achieve outstanding success
I am determined
I just keep going on

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Regards. Shaun Douglas shaun.douglas@mysmartmindset.com

June 23, 2010 Posted by | Be Motivated Today | Leave a comment

True Success…

Here is a short video clip in which I share what I believe success is. It will give you a whole new perspective on life (not in a religious sense though).

 Watch it here: True Success

Enjoy! Affirmations:
I keep growing in every area
I achieve new things all the time
I enjoy a successful life

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Regards Shaun Douglas shaun.douglas@mysmartmindset.com

June 23, 2010 Posted by | Be Motivated Today | Leave a comment

Concentrate on one thing at a time.

When you have a lot to do, it’s tempting to multi-task. But you’ll actually get more done if you concentrate on one thing at a time. In this video I explain why focusing your attention is more productive than trying to handle multiple priorities simultaneously. You’ll come to appreciate the wisdom from Norman Vincent Peale: “When every physical and mental resource is focused – one’s power to solve a problem multiplies tremendously.”

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How can you structure your day to eliminate distractions and concentrate on one priority at a time?

“Just say ‘No’ to others and to yourself when you find you are being tempted to deviate from your priorities.” – Chin-Ning Chu, American author

“The effectiveness of work increases according to geometrical progression if there are no interruptions.” – André Maurois, French author

“Nothing can add more power to your life than concentrating all your energies on a limited set of targets.” – Nido Qubein, American professional speaker and author

Prioritising your life especially your day-to-day activities is important. If you don’t do this it can’t be measured. If it can’t be measured it can’t be calculated and if you can’t calculate it you wont know if you are moving forward of backwards. Regards. Shaun Douglas shaun.douglas@mysmartmindset.com

June 23, 2010 Posted by | Personal Development | Leave a comment

Why Is Apologizing So Hard?

One thing we quickly learn in life is that NO ONE is perfect. While it’s easy to see the flaws and faults in others, we often wear blinders when it comes to our own behavior and its effect on others.

Recognize that you’re going to make mistakes, and when you do, sometimes your words and actions will negatively impact those you care about most.

Have you ever:

  • Lost your temper and said something in anger that you regret?
  • Blamed someone else and then realized you were the one at fault?
  • Inconvenienced others by being late, careless, or otherwise self-absorbed?

If you have, you’re not alone. We’ve all failed to be the person we aspire to be at any given moment.

The trick is to recognize what you’ve done (or haven’t done) as quickly as possible so you can repair the damage before it becomes deep or permanent.

Saying “I’M SORRY” can make all the difference in strengthening or healing a relationship, yet sometimes these words stick in your throat.

Why is it so hard to say “I’m sorry” when you’ve said or done something hurtful?

For one thing, we like to be right so it’s painful to admit we’re wrong. With an apology, we acknowledge we’re imperfect. It takes a strong sense of self to make yourself vulnerable to another person.

Or maybe you’re concerned that you’ll be perceived as weak and the other person will take advantage of you in some way.

Here’s the reality though.

Most of the time, the injured party will be relieved to hear you say, “I’m sorry” and be quick to forgive you. At a minimum, you’ve opened the door to more meaningful communication where you can discuss what went wrong and what’s needed to repair the relationship and restore good feelings.

You can expend enormous energy trying to justify your behavior or defend what you said. But in the end, if your words or actions created problems for another person – and that individual is important to you – you need to set your ego aside and apologize as quickly as you can. I guarantee that your relationships will be stronger when you make a sincere apology and follow up with behavior that restores trust and respect.

“It takes a great deal of character strength to apologize quickly out of one’s heart rather than out of pity. A person must possess himself and have a deep sense of security in fundamental principles and values in order to genuinely apologize.” – Stephen Covey

I personally find it difficult to say “I am Sorry” It takes me some cooling down. I then evaluate the situation deciding who’s right and who’s wrong. If I was wrong. I suck it up and go and apologise. It’s not easy. I must say. Admitting you are wrong is the 1st step in the right direction. Regards. Shaun Douglas shaun.douglas@mysmartmindset.com   

June 23, 2010 Posted by | Personal Development | Leave a comment

Focus on Opportunities Instead of Obstacles.

The attitude and beliefs you bring to a challenging situation dramatically affect what happens to you. Putting on rose-colored glasses and hoping for the best won’t make the problem go away. Find out what an optimistic approach really looks like and why it will get you better results. When you implement these ideas, you’ll reduce the fear and anxiety you may feel in the face of uncertainty.

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If you tend to play “scary” movies in your head, try replacing them with vivid images of what you DO want. Can you feel the difference in your mind and body?

“Things turn out best for people who make the best of the way things turn out.” – John Wooden, American college basketball coach

“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.” – Leo Buscaglia, American author

“The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious to the rose.” – Kahlil Gibran, Lebanese poet

“What is a weed? A plant whose virtues have not yet been discovered.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson, American philosopher

Your believe system is critical. It all starts in the mind. Regards. Shaun Douglas. shaun.douglas@mysmartmindset.com

June 23, 2010 Posted by | Personal Development | Leave a comment

A Role Model for Courage and Perseverance.

Joan Rivers is far more than a successful comedian. A phenomenal entrepreneur, she overcame extreme adversity to create a multi-faceted company that now exceeds $200 million in sales annually.

I recently had the chance to meet Joan and hear her speak at the Glazer-Kennedy Super Conference  in Dallas. Her inspiring presentation included not only her own experiences as a business builder but also insights she’s gained from hosting “How’d You Get So Rich?” In this reality TV show, Joan simply asks people who’ve made money in unique ways how they acquired their wealth.

All these individuals started with nothing but a dream, and Joan described several traits they had in common. How can you apply these success principles to your own life?

1. Say YES to every opportunity.  Hesitation, doubt and fear can cause you to miss out on life-transforming breaks.

2. Have a strong work ethic. “If you love your work, you shouldn’t know it’s 5:00.” If you really love what you do, you’ll think about it all the time and figure out how to go to the next level.

3. Have a motto or mantra that drives you. A few favorites:

“Never look back.”
“Use whatever resources you have.”
“Yes is the only answer.”

4. Ignore your shortcomings. No one is perfect. If you believe in yourself, don’t let what you can’t do well deter you. And don’t let others discourage you from pursuing your dream.

5. Never let anyone tell you something is beneath you. Be willing to do whatever is necessary to achieve your goal.

6. Keep your sense of humor. Accept that life is difficult, so make a joke out of the bad times whenever you can. “100 laughs a day = 10 minutes of rowing.”

At 76 years young, Joan Rivers is a role model for lifelong learning. The authentic enthusiasm in her voice as she described the lessons she’s learned from her own life and the entrepreneurs she’s interviewed was inspiring. And remember…

“Don’t follow any advice, no matter how good, until you feel as deeply in your spirit as you think in your mind that the counsel is wise.” – Joan Rivers

Well done to Joan Rivers. She is an excellent example of what it takes. Regards. Shaun Douglas shaun.douglas@mysmartmindset.com

June 23, 2010 Posted by | Personal Development | Leave a comment

Don’t Give Up on You.

You have a dream. You intend to move closer to your dream every day. But life gets in the way and there are nights when you lie awake feeling frustrated. Sometimes you even feel hopeless. You see the life that could be; but isn’t right now. No matter how far away your dream may seem, believe this:

Don’t give up on you.

You speak and it feels like no one is listening. You have a creative approach to a problem but there’s not an audience to hear it. You want others to pay attention and then act based on your ideas. You want to be understood. The status quo continues and your voice is not heard. No matter how misunderstood you may feel, believe this:

Don’t give up on you.

You crave the touch from another. You close your eyes and see yourself creating a life with someone who shares the same ideas, passions and desires as you do. After several misses, you continue to wait for this person to walk into your life. You may even begin to wonder if something is wrong with you. No matter how elusive love may feel, believe this:

Don’t give up on you.

You recall the mistakes you made. You consider the sins that have been committed against you. You see your life in the past tense and don’t think you can move forward. No matter how stuck you may feel, believe this:

Don’t give up on you.

One simple truth

When you feel like giving up remember this one, simple truth: You are loved.

Believe in this truth and use this certainty to rely on your faith and allow it to hold you together. Because you are loved, you will be given what you need to sustain you through the tough times. All you have to do is open your heart and allow His love to flow through.

Lift up your eyes and see your dream play out in your mind. This dream, your passion, was placed in you for a reason: because it is your life’s purpose. Believe in it and see the things you do each day to inch closer to it. The steps may be small and the progress slow, but take a good look. You will see yourself moving a little closer each day. When you are feeling frustrated with the pace, remember things unfold on His time; not yours.

Lift up your voice and claim your dignity. It doesn’t matter if no one is listening because God is there to acknowledge your worth. Proclaim your value, announce your beauty and declare your gifts. Use your voice to tell the world you are enough because God says you are enough for Him.

Lift up your heart and allow it to breathe in the love that is meant just for you. There is another heart that beats just like yours. Believe this heart will be brought closer. Have faith God will create the perfect cadence. Listen for this tempo and wait for its rhythm. You will know when this heart is getting closer because the sound will be deafening. He won’t let you miss it.

Lift up your arms and allow His grace to wash over you. When you do, mistakes will be properly categorized and the sins of others will stop inflicting their damage. Let grace take you from the place where you find doubt and to a place of confidence and trust.

No matter how you may feel today, believe this: Don’t give up on you because you do have value and you are already loved.

Article written by. Alex Blackwell

Dont give up on you. There is only one guarantee in life and that is you and you alone. Work it. Regards. Shaun Douglas shaun.douglas@mysmartmindset.com

June 23, 2010 Posted by | Personal Development | Leave a comment

When the Past Haunts You.

First of all, all of life has purpose and meaning. Sometimes we get the wrong idea that we’re supposed to live happily ever after. We are supposed to enjoy the gift of life, but it’s not like in the movies—like you solve one challenge and then you’re free to have fun. We do get fun, but we’ll always have the next test too. It’s just part of what makes up this crazy and wonderful life. We’re supposed to grow, and the tests we come up against actually shape us to be better and better. The issue is the way we meet the tests. But then, you knew this, right? ☺
There are different ways the past comes into the present. If it is through the memory of past events, you can change your thinking to leave the past in the past. There are different ways to do this—it could be that time heals it or it could be that you learn how to release memories that don’t serve you.
If you find that the past is repeating, then you have a whole other challenge to find out what is going on: what do you need to learn? Here’s a little example: let’s say someone puts a raw egg on the table and it rolls off, falls on the floor, and then breaks. If she keeps putting another egg in the same place, it will always roll off. She has to learn that she either needs to put the egg in something that won’t roll, or put the egg somewhere else. Lessons will keep repeating until we change. We have to change the way we react to things.
The thing about bad memories of the past is that you can actually change the way you relate to them. You can send the images that haunt you in your mind’s eye away when they come up, or you can take the you that is in that memory and make that younger part of you safe right now. Do not under-estimate the power of imagination.
Be gentle with yourself and be sure you are surrounding yourself with kindness and strong boundaries. This too shall pass as you grow in life experience. We all fall on our faces and then we just have to get up one more time. I know you’ll rise! Big, big hugs!
Love,
Aunt Laya. You can follow her on her blog at.  auntlaya.blogspot.com
 
 
Thanks Aunt Laya. Most of us have made mistakes in the past. From time to time it comes back to haunt us. Aunt Laya gives a good response as to how we should look at it. Regards Shaun Douglas shaun.douglas@mysmartmindset.com

June 23, 2010 Posted by | Personal Development | Leave a comment